Why it’s important to let go when some things are not meant for us? Do you think we hold on to the things not meant for us the tightest because at some level we know it’s not meant for us?
We have all had at least one point in our lives where we have faced the decision of whether we should let go of or hold on to something or someone. Letting go is often one of the most difficult things that we have to do in our lives, yet sometimes it is the only way that we can get ourselves to move forward. It can be especially difficult to let go of things that we still really want to hold on to. These things oftentimes, whether they are objects, people, or ideas, are usually things that we have a hard time admitting that we don’t need because we still like them so much. For some reason, we have conditioned ourselves to think that we need to hold on to them because the thought of them going away or the thought of us missing them is just too much.
The absolute truth is things are meant for us is will never leave us feeling that we need to fight to keep them. That we need to latch on to them to remain. We will never have to give ultimatums or threats and have ugly bitter arguments that leave us wondering and questioning our worth and connection.
Is it possible that it’s never the love but the attachment to the idea of what it’s supposed to be that keeps us hooked?
We are the masters of our own destinies. Our choices ultimately determine how much we grow and succeed. We will not allow ourselves growth if we remain stagnant in our lives. In order to give ourselves room to grow, we need to practice evaluating what we have and deciding whether or not it is really worth holding on to. I’m telling you from experience that once you are honest with yourself and make a decision that something needs to go, it will be hard at first, but when you give yourself time to get used to the idea, you will never look back because you will see how taking this step truly benefits your growth and your life.
One way to begin the letting go process is to ask yourself, “If I let this go, what will it make room for?” The general answer to this will most likely be something of equal or greater value. The most basic example I can give you is, say, you’ve been holding on to a shirt that you have but you haven’t worn in years. You love the shirt. Your mom gave it to you for your birthday. You remember the last day you wore it and what happened while you were wearing it, but you know that you probably won’t wear it again. The shirt has lost its sheen and it’s a bit out of style now. It can no longer serve you in the way it once did. If you let it go, you clear that hanger in your closet, and it becomes a possible place to hang a new item of clothing that you might find the next time you’re out shopping. This item of clothing will probably fit you better and be more in style. It will be a better choice for you. It’s an extremely simple example, I know, but the idea is the same in even more complex situations. You see, when we give something up, the love that we have for it is never truly lost, it just eventually transforms itself into a love for something else. This is possible because now we have made space for something new to come along. It is very important to keep in mind that even though we have let something that we care for go, we always get to keep the memories that we have of it.
Letting go does not have to mean forgetting. However, letting go of that person frees up your existing love to channel toward other people who might be a better fit for you in your life presently. In order to help yourself through this, if you feel yourself starting to miss that person in a way that makes you feel sad or lonely, redirect your thoughts toward thinking about the endless possibilities for which your life now has space.
Ultimately, we have the power to decide what we let go of and what we hold on to, and those decisions will eventually shape the trajectories of our lives. If you hold on to a job that you do not love for too long, it can have a negative effect on your happiness and overall well-being, but if you let go of it, even if it is scary and slightly sad to do so, you are opening up your life for other possibilities and experiences that there was not any room for before. Letting go of something that you truly love or care about, or just something that provides you with your comfort, is truly difficult. Keep in mind; that all people struggle with this at some point in their lives. Be kind to yourself.
Better things will come your way, maybe not immediately, but they will. Love is not lost or destroyed when we let go; it just eventually takes on a new shape.
Remember the things meant for us are the things that force us to see the incredible light within ourselves. We will never have to hold on tightly to make anything happen.
