Hey, hello sunshine and how has your week been? How have you been? Now I am not a Gen Z kid or Gen Zed as some people pronounce.
But I have to admire the words and the phrases that they use. They’re tossing around these new words, mixing words up, straight up creating new words. And trying to make sense of it can make you feel like you’re decoding a massive secret message.
But honestly, I think the language, and by language I mean the phrases they use, the words they speak, the terms that they somehow make trending, I find them all very fascinating. But mind you, if you’re not Gen Z, please don’t get caught using any of these phrases or words, because either you’d be laughed at or even told off.
I’m sure almost all of you have heard of this phrase, Delulu is the Selulu, which translates to, delusion is the solution. I was told that this term was originally coined by some K-pop fan communities in 2014.
And Delulu is short for delusional. It originally referred to behaviours exhibited by overly obsessed K-pop fans known as sasaengs. Salulu simply means solution and within the sphere of social media, specifically TikTok, the buzzword Delulu initially centred around dating.
A strong belief that someone, maybe someone that is not even easily reachable, can be interested in you. Even when all the signs and evidence point it elsewhere. For example, dating your favourite celebrity, owning your luxury villa and car or maybe a yacht without putting in too much effort or without putting in too much of hard work.
Now, over time, this phrase has evolved into a versatile mindset. I mean, people are now applying it to various domains of life. And it got me thinking, is there any truth to this phrase? Is there anything to this phrase that makes it, maybe, we look at it a little differently. Now, of course, many of you all will probably tell me that there is nothing great about being delusional. But bear with me a minute.
What if I told you that being delusional or maybe faking confidence so convincingly, that it could actually help you turn your aspirations into reality, even when the odds seem stacked against you, is possible? If you ask me, it seems like an offshoot of the manifestation theory to me.
Now, while Dilulu emphasizes the importance of confidence and self-belief to achieve success in all areas of life, believing in oneself and one’s abilities is actually a very powerful tool. You know, the fact that you can believe in yourself to overcome challenges and seize opportunities as they come your way is extremely empowering. Self-belief is closely tied to high levels of efficiency.
And the belief in your capability to accomplish tasks and goals is actually directly linked to that self-belief. Over the years, research has also consistently shown that individuals with high levels of efficiency tend to set higher goals because they do tend to pursue them, even in the face of adversity, and ultimately end up achieving a lot more.
Now look at it this way, if you’re delusionally hopeful, it may actually nudge you to say yes to challenges you may have ordinarily said no to or would have probably not even thought of accepting it.
It’s a great replacement for negative self-talk, this inner critic inside all of our heads all the time, this negative voice that sometimes stops us from doing things, this naysayer, this skeptic inside each one of us. And if you replace it with the voice of a happy delusional, say, fan over here, it’ll help you see opportunities maybe in the bleakest of scenarios.
Of course, I’m not asking you to overuse this tactic, because that way you’ll completely lose sight of your own weaknesses and you’ll stop working on yourself altogether. Because while Delulu can help in small ways, but thinking that delusion is the only answer to all the problems in the world can actually lead to a serious problem. A bigger problem, probably.
Being delusional is beneficial only if you aren’t constantly only chasing rainbows without looking at the reality around you.
Or constantly only viewing things or life through rose-tinted glasses without accepting the reality around you. The only way one can do this is to learn to face our triggers. Learn to face our fears. You know as the saying goes, when it feels scary to jump, that is exactly when you jump. Otherwise you will end up in the same place.
If a little delusional mindset helps you achieve your dreams, then by all means go shoot for the stars. But do remember that dreams come true only if you take action. Only if you really work hard. Only if you’re willing to work on your weaknesses. Only if you’re willing to look at yourself and be honest with yourself. Only if you’re willing
to actually tell yourself that, okay fine, I’m looking at it in a slightly delusional manner for a short span of time till I start feeling better. And so to sign off, all I can tell all of y’all is, may all your delulu come trululu. We’ll speak to you again next week. But until then, take good care of yourself. Love you all so much. Bye for now.
